“So, you’re moving this summer, right? You’re moving back to the US?”
The question that keeps getting asked. A lot. Well, actually we don’t know.
“You mean Jamie doesn’t have a job?!”
Well, Jamie’s role during his time in China was to train up a Chinese national to take his position. The time has come for the national to take over and we are excited about this!
“Can’t he just go back to the job he left in the US?”
Jamie’s company encourages their employees to move roles/positions/jobs every 3-5 years. It is necessary for career development and learning new skills. Jamie’s skills have grown, changed and evolved while we’ve been in China and a different position will be a better fit (just like if he would have been in a role for 4 years in the US).
“Is there a job for him?”
“Don’t you want to move back to the US?”
Sure, that would be great. Family, friends, cheese, driving and Target are all great things about the US.
“Don’t you want to have another expat assignment?”
Sure, that would also be great. We love to travel and there are so many more places to see. The experiences that our girls are having are shaping their world-view in such a positive manner.
“Aren’t you freaking out?”
Not yet. I had tea with a friend last week and she mentioned that there were about 102 days between last Friday and their projected move day (at the end of the school year), which is potentially our move date. She was meeting with the relocation people in the afternoon to start assessing their belongings and what it would take to move everything back to the US. One hundred and two days is not long at all!
The conversation with my friend put me in a very reflective mood. I started remembering all the feelings that I had before we moved to China and one of the emotions I had was bitterness. I was excited to move, I was ready for an adventure, I was sad to leave family & friends, but our little family of four wanted to go. We were choosing this. However, as the process got started, emails started rolling in, the continuous stream of calls with lawyers, accountants, packers, etc. I developed a lot of bitterness. I didn’t want to spend my last 8 weeks feeling harassed by my to-do list. I had the distinct feeling that the only thing keeping me from breezily sailing through this move was me. Me not willingly to stay up all hours of the night filling out forms, responding to emails, organizing our things, and marching through the to-do’s. But, I couldn’t escape it and those things had to be done.
I wanted to spend the time leading up to the move savoring time with family, enjoying one more round of hugs and laughs with my closest girl friends and giving my girls an extra big dose of Americana to sustain us through the first 6 months of our move.
So for now, from my perspective, if we don’t know where we’re going, then I can’t have a moving to-do list. Frankly, if an international move gets crammed into 30 days, then fine by me because it will be crazy and exhausting no matter how many days I am given.
I’m avoiding bitterness at all costs. Instead, you can find me soaking up all things Suzhou and China and enjoying what time we have left here.